Deepening Intimacy Through Forgiveness

ForgivenessIt’s easy to connect intimacy with sex but there is an even deeper level of intimacy that can be reached, and that is through the gift of vulnerability. There is nothing more precious that being able to trust others.

To do this, we need to knock down our walls to really let our loved-one in, but that is easier said than done.  We’ve built these walls over time to “protect” us from harm – so how do we shatter these walls that we may not even know are there?

The Key is Forgiveness

Fortunately, you have the key to shatter the walls.  It’s as simple as practicing forgiveness.   Forgiveness allows you to let go of the emotions that bind you to the past.  The feelings of “I could have…” “I should have…” or “I wish that were different.”

This program is for you if:

  • Your loved one easily pushes your “buttons”
  • You have trouble trusting your loved-one
  • You want to open up, but it feels too risky
  • Things are going well, but you value your relationship and want to deepen your connection

Want a deep, intimate connection?  Join us for this month’s free Conscious Relationship Seminar with RCI member, Lori Rubenstein for:

Deepening Intimacy through Forgiveness

Date: Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Time: 9:00am Pacific/12:00pm Eastern
Cost:  No charge
Replay:  Will be available – use the weblink below to access after the program

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Ready to explore this new level of connection?  Forgiveness Teacher and Relationship Coach Lori Rubenstein will lead you through the process of forgiving and letting go of the past, so you can have the INTIMACY….(Into Me See) you deserve.



Lori S. Rubenstein is a passionate lifetime learner in the art of forgiveness. As a Divorce Attorney, Forgiveness Teacher and Relationship Coach, she believes that our life path, our journey, is exactly what we need to meet our soul’s desire. Thus, there is a purpose and a reason for everything. Her life set her up perfectly to be a beacon – lighting the path for others to find their way back to love. Whether she holds you with grace and love, or a “tough-love-tell-it-like-it-is” attitude, you know this compassionate warrior has your back!

She is the author of Forgiveness: Heal Your Past and Find the Peace YOU Deserve (Sacred Life Publishers 2012)

For more assistance with Forgiveness, watch this video: or go to and get your 28 day step-by-step e-class to transform your life through forgiveness.


Addressing Relationship Energy Drainers

With Ilene Dillon, MSW, MFT, LCSW

Do you know that the way a relationship starts off, it tends to continue?

Too often we spend weeks or months in a relationship, only to find it is not working for us because we feel drained, guilty, very angry, or “used” in the relationship.

You can save yourself time, energy, and pain by learning to recognize immediately when your energy is being drained and what you can do about it. Whether you have a penchant for attracting energy draining individuals or you experience energy draining only occasionally, you’ll appreciate having readily-available tools for dealing with this all-too-common relationship challenge.

In this program you will learn:

  • How and why energy draining occurs
  • 6 ways to immediately recognize when your energy is being drained.
  • Two prominent patterns of energy draining.
  • Three actions you can take to neutralize energy draining from others.
  • How to utilize the 72-Hour Rule to strengthen yourself in relationships.
  • The D.E.S.C. Plus-A-Step method for communicating powerfully.

Creating Love Beyond Words: Straight Talk for Women About Men

With Pat Love, Ed.D

You’ll never get a closer marriage by talking to a man like you talk to your girlfriends. It’s not about “communication,” it’s about connection. Men want closer marriages just as much as women- The stereotype of the aloof or domineering male covers up the fact that he wants to be closer too, but not if he has to feel like a woman.

In this seminar Dr. Pat Love talks to women about how to get the love you want from the man in your life .

In this program you will learn:

  • 10 Ways Women Drive Men Away
  • About the emotional vocabulary gap- why it sounds phony when he says it
  • How to handle male emotions: hint- you can’t be too direct too quickly
  • The truth motivating the shut- down and controlling men, and what to do about it
  • Four nonverbal ways to connect with your man
  • New information about what brings men and women together, and what tears relationships apart
  • “Malespeak”- what he’s saying that you don’t hear
  • What a man would tell you if he could

Check out these books by Dr. Pat Love!

Good Husband, Great Marriage: Finding the Good Husband in the Man You Married

with Robert and Jane Alter

After thirty-seven years of marriage and almost that many as therapists and marriage counselors, Robert and Jane Alter have concluded that in many cases men and women are not equally responsible for the problems in marriages.

Their experience suggests that mostly it’s the men who cause the disconnection. The wives always have some work to do on themselves, and sometimes a lot of work, but when it comes to knowing how to really be in relationship, how to have true connection and true intimacy in a marriage, the men are a piece of work.

Jane and Robert have also seen that there are many great men in this world who deep in their hearts want to be great husbands to their wives, and some have gotten off to a great start, but others have no idea, or a bunch of wrong ideas, about how to do that, and need some serious help.

Robert’s book, Good Husband, Great Marriage: Finding the Good Husband…in the Man You Married, and the Alters’ work, which they call the “good husband work,” is the help they provide.

In this program you learn:

• The definition of a good husband

• The five big lies men tell themselves to keep from changing

• The one-way street of change a man has to walk down in his marriage before it becomes a two-way street

• What women have to teach men about connection, relationship, and great marriage

• The wife’s role in helping her husband become a good husband

• How to get a guy to do the good husband work

49 minutes

Highly Recommended!

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

with Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. In this program Dr. Steven Stosny reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness:

  • Love is not about better communication. It’s about connection.
  • You’ll never get a closer relationship with your man by talking to him like you talk to one of your girlfriends.
  • Male emotions are like women’s sexuality: you can’t be too direct too quickly.

There are four ways to connect with a man:

  1. Touch
  2. Activity
  3. Sex
  4. Routines

Men want closer marriages just as much as women do, but not if they have to act like a woman. Talking makes women move closer; it makes men move away.

The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life.

In this program you learn:

  • The same vulnerabilities that bring us together tear us apart
  • Why we fight
  • The worst thing a woman does to a man
  • The worst thing a man does to a woman
  • The Power Love Formula: 4 3/4 minutes a day to a powerful relationship

We recommend this book!

The Couples Circle: A Powerful Peer Support Model for Conscious Couples

With Nevin Valentine, Darrell Holdaway, and David Steele

A “Couples Circle” is a peer group of couples supporting each other to have a successful and fulfilling conscious relationship. This audio program provides the format and specific instructions for how the Couples Circle works.

You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore!

with Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

Millions of people walk on eggshells, constantly second-guessing themselves, editing what they say, worrying if they did things okay, trying to be in a good mood, all to prevent criticism, cold shoulders, angry outbursts, or to keep from creating negative impressions. They lose their very sense of self and don’t like the persons they’ve become.

Dr. Stosny, author of You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore: How to Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One (Free Press, January 2006) discusses:

  • The dynamics and effects of walking on eggshells
  • The harm to children
  • The way out

Check out Dr. Stosny’s book on Amazon: