Deepening Intimacy Through Forgiveness

ForgivenessIt’s easy to connect intimacy with sex but there is an even deeper level of intimacy that can be reached, and that is through the gift of vulnerability. There is nothing more precious that being able to trust others.

To do this, we need to knock down our walls to really let our loved-one in, but that is easier said than done.  We’ve built these walls over time to “protect” us from harm – so how do we shatter these walls that we may not even know are there?

The Key is Forgiveness

Fortunately, you have the key to shatter the walls.  It’s as simple as practicing forgiveness.   Forgiveness allows you to let go of the emotions that bind you to the past.  The feelings of “I could have…” “I should have…” or “I wish that were different.”

This program is for you if:

  • Your loved one easily pushes your “buttons”
  • You have trouble trusting your loved-one
  • You want to open up, but it feels too risky
  • Things are going well, but you value your relationship and want to deepen your connection

Want a deep, intimate connection?  Join us for this month’s free Conscious Relationship Seminar with RCI member, Lori Rubenstein for:

Deepening Intimacy through Forgiveness

Date: Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Time: 9:00am Pacific/12:00pm Eastern
Cost:  No charge
Replay:  Will be available – use the weblink below to access after the program

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Ready to explore this new level of connection?  Forgiveness Teacher and Relationship Coach Lori Rubenstein will lead you through the process of forgiving and letting go of the past, so you can have the INTIMACY….(Into Me See) you deserve.

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lorirubenstein

Lori S. Rubenstein is a passionate lifetime learner in the art of forgiveness. As a Divorce Attorney, Forgiveness Teacher and Relationship Coach, she believes that our life path, our journey, is exactly what we need to meet our soul’s desire. Thus, there is a purpose and a reason for everything. Her life set her up perfectly to be a beacon – lighting the path for others to find their way back to love. Whether she holds you with grace and love, or a “tough-love-tell-it-like-it-is” attitude, you know this compassionate warrior has your back! www.LoriRubenstein.com

She is the author of Forgiveness: Heal Your Past and Find the Peace YOU Deserve (Sacred Life Publishers 2012)

For more assistance with Forgiveness, watch this video: http://youtu.be/KUEMc8vZcT8 or go to http://lorirubenstein.com/forgiveness.html and get your 28 day step-by-step e-class to transform your life through forgiveness.

 

Your Emotions As Spiritual Guides

With Ilene Dillon

Humans are waking up to the incredible importance of emotions. Available to us 24-7, emotions form the human guidance system, telling us the best action to take in any situation. Each emotion offers a different ‘signal.’ Knowing and working with those signals enhances both mundane and spiritual life, and opens the door to deeply intimate relating.

Relationships are both art and skill. This workshop combines both, and will give you understanding, tools and information that will enable you to enhance all the relationships of your life with power and Spirit.

In this program you will learn:

1)  A simple paradigm through which to view the spiritual purpose of relationships

2)  The true role of emotions in life including the message of 5 common emotions

3)  A four-step method for working with emotions that we learn from animals, very useable for human animals!

4)  How to use Resonance to move past interpersonal difficulties involving strong emotion

5) The Power of the 72 Hour Rule and how to apply it in your relationship

6) Four spiritual principles to guide all your interactions in relationship

7)  How to Partner together to work with emotions, enhancing mutual personal and spiritual growth


Bonus Program!

The Miracle of Connection Part 3: Achieving Fulfillment

With Hedy Schleifer

Hedy covers the “Conscious Relationship” stage; what it looks like and how to get there.

FIVE ASSUMPTIONS FOR RELATIONSHIPS

Hedy shared the following five assumptions she and Yumi make about committed relationships:

  1. We grow and heal in the crucible of our relationship. “Therapy” doesn’t work well for relationships because the relationship IS the therapy.
  2. A relationship is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to embrace.
  3. Conflict is a friend, an opportunity for growth and connection.
  4. A relationship is a laboratory for the “Relational Maturity” of two adults.
  5. The higher mission of a relationship is to reclaim our wholeness. We choose a partner perfectly suited for this task, even if we appear incompatible.

SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP

  1. Our relationship happens in the space between us. True connection happens when we empty ourselves and cross the bridge to meet our partner.
  2. Everything your partner says in the present is a child attempting to tell their story.
  3. We are energy that can be expressed positively or negatively.
  4. Your partner’s bewildering behavior is an existential cry for help.
  5. Every frustration is a double-gift for the relationship.
  6. Liberating our joy into our space re-romanticizes our relationship.
  7. Fulfillment comes from dreaming our largest dreams together.

THE THIRD OPTION

“When it seems there are only two alternatives; pick the third” — Hedy’s Dad

“Beyond ‘right-thinking’ and ‘wrong-thinking’ there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” — Rumi

Our relationship lives in the space between us; in the hyphen between the “I” and the “Thou” in our “I-Thou” relationship.

In a relationship, we must “honor the ‘otherness’ of the other” and assume we are two separate people, and “cross the bridge into the country of our partner.”

When we honor the “otherness” of our partner and empty ourselves to “cross the bridge” we are honoring the space between us, which then becomes warm, loving, inviting, and passionate.

We highly recommend this video!

The Miracle of Connection Part 2: Embracing Our Differences

With Hedy Schleifer

Hedy covers the “Power Struggle” stage of relationship and how to use our differences to deepen intimacy and connection.

FIVE ASSUMPTIONS FOR RELATIONSHIPS

Hedy shared the following five assumptions she and Yumi make about committed relationships:

  1. We grow and heal in the crucible of our relationship. “Therapy” doesn’t work well for relationships because the relationship IS the therapy.
  2. A relationship is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to embrace.
  3. Conflict is a friend, an opportunity for growth and connection.
  4. A relationship is a laboratory for the “Relational Maturity” of two adults.
  5. The higher mission of a relationship is to reclaim our wholeness. We choose a partner perfectly suited for this task, even if we appear incompatible.

SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP

  1. Our relationship happens in the space between us. True connection happens when we empty ourselves and cross the bridge to meet our partner.
  2. Everything your partner says in the present is a child attempting to tell their story.
  3. We are energy that can be expressed positively or negatively.
  4. Your partner’s bewildering behavior is an existential cry for help.
  5. Every frustration is a double-gift for the relationship.
  6. Liberating our joy into our space re-romanticizes our relationship.
  7. Fulfillment comes from dreaming our largest dreams together.

THE THIRD OPTION

“When it seems there are only two alternatives; pick the third” — Hedy’s Dad

“Beyond ‘right-thinking’ and ‘wrong-thinking’ there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” — Rumi

Our relationship lives in the space between us; in the hyphen between the “I” and the “Thou” in our “I-Thou” relationship.

In a relationship, we must “honor the ‘otherness’ of the other” and assume we are two separate people, and “cross the bridge into the country of our partner.”

When we honor the “otherness” of our partner and empty ourselves to “cross the bridge” we are honoring the space between us, which then becomes warm, loving, inviting, and passionate.

We highly recommend this video!

The Miracle of Connection Part 1: Growing Our Passion

With Hedy Schleifer

In this program Hedy covers the initial “Romance” stage of relationship and how to keep the initial excitement alive over time.

FIVE ASSUMPTIONS FOR RELATIONSHIPS

Hedy shared the following five assumptions she and Yumi make about committed relationships:

  1. We grow and heal in the crucible of our relationship. “Therapy” doesn’t work well for relationships because the relationship IS the therapy.
  2. A relationship is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to embrace.
  3. Conflict is a friend, an opportunity for growth and connection.
  4. A relationship is a laboratory for the “Relational Maturity” of two adults.
  5. The higher mission of a relationship is to reclaim our wholeness. We choose a partner perfectly suited for this task, even if we appear incompatible.

SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP

  1. Our relationship happens in the space between us. True connection happens when we empty ourselves and cross the bridge to meet our partner.
  2. Everything your partner says in the present is a child attempting to tell their story.
  3. We are energy that can be expressed positively or negatively.
  4. Your partner’s bewildering behavior is an existential cry for help.
  5. Every frustration is a double-gift for the relationship.
  6. Liberating our joy into our space re-romanticizes our relationship.
  7. Fulfillment comes from dreaming our largest dreams together.

THE THIRD OPTION

“When it seems there are only two alternatives; pick the third” — Hedy’s Dad

“Beyond ‘right-thinking’ and ‘wrong-thinking’ there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” — Rumi

Our relationship lives in the space between us; in the hyphen between the “I” and the “Thou” in our “I-Thou” relationship.

In a relationship, we must “honor the ‘otherness’ of the other” and assume we are two separate people, and “cross the bridge into the country of our partner.”

When we honor the “otherness” of our partner and empty ourselves to “cross the bridge” we are honoring the space between us, which then becomes warm, loving, inviting, and passionate.

We highly recommend this video!

Relationship Essentials for Men (Women Invited!)

With Robert Glover, Ph.D.

With Robert Glover, Ph.D.

Historically, women have been thought of as the primary gatekeepers of intimate relationships. Unfortunately, there are several potential downsides to this paradigm:

  • Women often come to feel controlling, criticizing, and over-worked
  • Men often come to feel controlled, criticized, and unappreciated
  • Men tend to become defensive and avoidant and see their partner as a problem to be solved
  • Women tend to feel dismissed and lonely and have to guess what their partner is feeling and thinking
  • Both partners often end up feeling frustrated, resentful, powerless, and misunderstood (but doing more of the same thing, hoping for different results)

No wonder over 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce and countless others wither in silent desperation.

In this program Dr. Glover proposes a new paradigm of relationship interaction in which men become more fully present and take a more active leadership role in their relationship. Dr. Glover is not proposing that men become dominant or controlling, but that they become more conscious, honest, and transparent. In doing so, they can act with love and integrity in setting a tone that promotes open communication, problem resolution, reciprocity, trust, and sexual passion.
In this program, men will learn:

  • How to become conscious and present in their intimate relationship
  • How to become a good ‘ascertainer’
  • How to become honest and transparent with their partner
  • How to set the tone and take the lead with love and integrity

In this program, women will learn:

  • What it looks like when their partner becomes present in their relationship
  • How to trust and let go of control
  • How to more fully participate in a more reciprocal relationship
  • How to welcome increased sexual passion

Check out Dr. Glover’s great book- “No More Mr. Nice Guy.”
It will change your life!

Passionate Marriage

Dr. David Schnarch

In this presentation by renowned sex and marital therapist, Dr. David Schnarch, you will learn:

  • Why NORMAL couples have sexual problems, and how best to handle them
  • The four most important things to do to have the relationship you want
  • Two ways to immediately increase intimacy and enhance sex in your relationship

Passionate Marriage has become the most popular sex and relationship self-help book because it offers universal and timeless tools that apply to every aspect of your life. In this workshop, youll learn how to apply them to you.

Get Passionate Marriage and Dr. Schnarch’s new book Intimacy and Desire

Conscious Loving – Updated

Gay Hendricks, PhD and Kathlyn Hendricks, PhD

Authors of the ground-breaking book Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment,and more recently, the outstanding Lasting Love: The 5 Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship
Gay and Kathlyn (Katie) Hendricks wrote the ground-breaking book Conscious Loving in the early 90′s and are delighted that people continue to find this book useful. Conscious Loving is used in graduate school programs and in wedding ceremonies internationally.

In this program Drs. Hendricks will present their latest perspectives on key elements of Conscious Loving, includin:

  • The importance of telling your microscopic truth
  • The role of making and keeping commitments in a successful relationship
  • How the invisible, insidious upper limits problem can sabotage your life and relationship

Gay and Katie will share the ways they’ve updated and integrated Conscious Loving in their own relationship of 29 years as well as their work. The focus of this program will be how to make the key shifts that will allow you to create and sustain loving relationships.

Turn on your speakers and click the “Play” button below to listen:

Check out these ground-breaking relationship books by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks.

Highly recommended!

Secrets for Getting Love Right This Time

With Amy Schoen


Have you loved and lost love?

Have you decided to give dating another try to find The Right One?

Are you afraid that you may get hurt again?

Wouldn’t you like to Get It Right This Time in the love department?

Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC – Certified Professional Life Coach and National Dating and Relationship Expert will give you the road map to finding and keeping your Ideal Romantic Partner.
In this program you learn:

  • How to prepare yourself for Get It Right This Time? dating.
  • What’s getting in your way for meeting The Right One.
  • What helpful tips you need to know to Get It Right This Time and what will make you more attractive to prospects.
  • Where to go to meet The Right One and how to successfully connect with people.
  • The six signs that tell you if your partner is The Right One.
  • The telltale signs for if you should stay or leave a relationship.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, this program will give you the confidence and the know-how to move forward with the right romantic relationship!
Get It Right This Time is a great book for singles!

Get This Great New Book for Singles!

Addressing Relationship Energy Drainers

With Ilene Dillon, MSW, MFT, LCSW

Do you know that the way a relationship starts off, it tends to continue?

Too often we spend weeks or months in a relationship, only to find it is not working for us because we feel drained, guilty, very angry, or “used” in the relationship.

You can save yourself time, energy, and pain by learning to recognize immediately when your energy is being drained and what you can do about it. Whether you have a penchant for attracting energy draining individuals or you experience energy draining only occasionally, you’ll appreciate having readily-available tools for dealing with this all-too-common relationship challenge.

In this program you will learn:

  • How and why energy draining occurs
  • 6 ways to immediately recognize when your energy is being drained.
  • Two prominent patterns of energy draining.
  • Three actions you can take to neutralize energy draining from others.
  • How to utilize the 72-Hour Rule to strengthen yourself in relationships.
  • The D.E.S.C. Plus-A-Step method for communicating powerfully.