Conscious Relationship Seminars and Podcast

Free programs for singles and couples hosted by Relationship Coaching Institute

The Miracle of Connection Part 2: Embracing Our Differences

With Hedy Schleifer

Hedy covers the “Power Struggle” stage of relationship and how to use our differences to deepen intimacy and connection.

FIVE ASSUMPTIONS FOR RELATIONSHIPS

Hedy shared the following five assumptions she and Yumi make about committed relationships:

  1. We grow and heal in the crucible of our relationship. “Therapy” doesn’t work well for relationships because the relationship IS the therapy.
  2. A relationship is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to embrace.
  3. Conflict is a friend, an opportunity for growth and connection.
  4. A relationship is a laboratory for the “Relational Maturity” of two adults.
  5. The higher mission of a relationship is to reclaim our wholeness. We choose a partner perfectly suited for this task, even if we appear incompatible.

SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP

  1. Our relationship happens in the space between us. True connection happens when we empty ourselves and cross the bridge to meet our partner.
  2. Everything your partner says in the present is a child attempting to tell their story.
  3. We are energy that can be expressed positively or negatively.
  4. Your partner’s bewildering behavior is an existential cry for help.
  5. Every frustration is a double-gift for the relationship.
  6. Liberating our joy into our space re-romanticizes our relationship.
  7. Fulfillment comes from dreaming our largest dreams together.

THE THIRD OPTION

“When it seems there are only two alternatives; pick the third” — Hedy’s Dad

“Beyond ‘right-thinking’ and ‘wrong-thinking’ there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” — Rumi

Our relationship lives in the space between us; in the hyphen between the “I” and the “Thou” in our “I-Thou” relationship.

In a relationship, we must “honor the ‘otherness’ of the other” and assume we are two separate people, and “cross the bridge into the country of our partner.”

When we honor the “otherness” of our partner and empty ourselves to “cross the bridge” we are honoring the space between us, which then becomes warm, loving, inviting, and passionate.

We highly recommend this video!

The Miracle of Connection Part 1: Growing Our Passion

With Hedy Schleifer

In this program Hedy covers the initial “Romance” stage of relationship and how to keep the initial excitement alive over time.

FIVE ASSUMPTIONS FOR RELATIONSHIPS

Hedy shared the following five assumptions she and Yumi make about committed relationships:

  1. We grow and heal in the crucible of our relationship. “Therapy” doesn’t work well for relationships because the relationship IS the therapy.
  2. A relationship is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to embrace.
  3. Conflict is a friend, an opportunity for growth and connection.
  4. A relationship is a laboratory for the “Relational Maturity” of two adults.
  5. The higher mission of a relationship is to reclaim our wholeness. We choose a partner perfectly suited for this task, even if we appear incompatible.

SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP

  1. Our relationship happens in the space between us. True connection happens when we empty ourselves and cross the bridge to meet our partner.
  2. Everything your partner says in the present is a child attempting to tell their story.
  3. We are energy that can be expressed positively or negatively.
  4. Your partner’s bewildering behavior is an existential cry for help.
  5. Every frustration is a double-gift for the relationship.
  6. Liberating our joy into our space re-romanticizes our relationship.
  7. Fulfillment comes from dreaming our largest dreams together.

THE THIRD OPTION

“When it seems there are only two alternatives; pick the third” — Hedy’s Dad

“Beyond ‘right-thinking’ and ‘wrong-thinking’ there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” — Rumi

Our relationship lives in the space between us; in the hyphen between the “I” and the “Thou” in our “I-Thou” relationship.

In a relationship, we must “honor the ‘otherness’ of the other” and assume we are two separate people, and “cross the bridge into the country of our partner.”

When we honor the “otherness” of our partner and empty ourselves to “cross the bridge” we are honoring the space between us, which then becomes warm, loving, inviting, and passionate.

We highly recommend this video!

Relationship Essentials for Men (Women Invited!)

With Robert Glover, Ph.D.
With Robert Glover, Ph.D.
Historically, women have been thought of as the primary gatekeepers of intimate relationships. Unfortunately, there are several potential downsides to this paradigm:

  • Women often come to feel controlling, criticizing, and over-worked
  • Men often come to feel controlled, criticized, and unappreciated
  • Men tend to become defensive and avoidant and see their partner as a problem to be solved
  • Women tend to feel dismissed and lonely and have to guess what their partner is feeling and thinking
  • Both partners often end up feeling frustrated, resentful, powerless, and misunderstood (but doing more of the same thing, hoping for different results)

No wonder over 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce and countless others wither in silent desperation.

In this program Dr. Glover proposes a new paradigm of relationship interaction in which men become more fully present and take a more active leadership role in their relationship. Dr. Glover is not proposing that men become dominant or controlling, but that they become more conscious, honest, and transparent. In doing so, they can act with love and integrity in setting a tone that promotes open communication, problem resolution, reciprocity, trust, and sexual passion.
In this program, men will learn:

  • How to become conscious and present in their intimate relationship
  • How to become a good ‘ascertainer’
  • How to become honest and transparent with their partner
  • How to set the tone and take the lead with love and integrity

In this program, women will learn:

  • What it looks like when their partner becomes present in their relationship
  • How to trust and let go of control
  • How to more fully participate in a more reciprocal relationship
  • How to welcome increased sexual passion

Check out Dr. Glover’s great book- “No More Mr. Nice Guy.”
It will change your life!