In REPTILES IN LOVE Ferguson explains how to recognize and prevent fights that escalate to mutually self-destructive behavior and tells couples how to achieve physical and emotional safety in conflict, sort out real from unreal issues, and identify and overcome the more primitive aspects of our nature.
In this program you learn:
- How the brain affects couples abilities to talk and really hear each other when they are fearful, angry or hurt
- How to lower the emotions and intensity before trying to “fix things” or trying to get closer
- How most repetitive battles are about “the wrong subject”
- “Mechanical approaches” to lowering anxiety and calming each other